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This study examines how the Bible sees extramarital affairs, and how christian counsellors look at the affairs and give advice to troubled couples, based on the repentance and confession of spouses who had affairs, and forgiveness between such couples.
Forgiveness is a human behavior that follows the God’s unconditional love and blessing toward human beings. However, it is never easy to forgive each other between a couple who, or at least one party, had an extramarital affair, and thus christian counsellors should refrain from urging or forcing hasty forgiveness. Counsellors patiently help heartbroken couples fully express their emotion, and recognize and accept their situation through emphasizing, listening and accepting their emotion. In the course of the process, counsellors introduce techniques, such as how to communicate and how to address reminders that trigger bad memories about spouses􀁳affairs. Christian counsellors are not responsible for punishing a spouse who had an affair on behalf of the other, but humbly praying to God to forgive their unforgivable sins and praying to the Holy Spirit to participate in the counselling sessions to help the couples.